to start, let’s get some music going, yeah?
alright. glad we’re listening to some solid tunes now.
i’ve been doing a lot of thinking lately about my relationships..specifically, the romantic ones (or the lack thereof of any romantic relationships in my life..). i went to an intervarsity women’s event last night called “dating and dessert” — awesome, i know. the panel of women in their different life stages proved to be so helpful in understanding dating and relationships, and in a Godly sense.
i’m a very physical person. i like hugging and showing affections to everyone i know. i’m touchy-feely and i bet that gets on people’s nerves sometimes…sorry, i blame my father and you can, too. showing that i love someone doesn’t mean i have to do it physically, though. i feel like i don’t think about that very often. i love doing things for people, but i think i can do those little things a little bit more. sending flowers, sending cards, doing something special for someone else — doing those things show how much you love someone without even being near them! the more i think about it, the more integral i think it is to do things that aren’t physical for someone you love, regardless of the kind of relationship you are in with that person.
daydreaming. oh, daydreaming, how you plague me! it may even be called infatuation sometimes i think, and i also believe every girl is guilty of it (at least at some point in her life). this lustful (yes, lustful) thinking of things that aren’t real can really lead to our downfall as women in Christ! if we are so blinded by our imaginations and daydreamed thoughts, how will we be able to see what God is calling us to do? what if God is putting that man we deserve to be with in our lives at this very moment, yet we are too busy staring out the window and thinking about someone who isn’t even real or a relationship that will never occur with another man?! we can be so silly sometimes.
God tells us in jeremiah 29:11 —
“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”
basically, God knows what He’s doing! he has the plans for us, ladies (and gentlemen, too!), so all we need to do right now is trust in Him and devote ourselves completely to His love.
i think that God tells a man when he needs to pursue a woman. listening to one of the women on the panel talk about her experiences, i was reminded that i deserve to be pursued 100%. i don’t have to be the pursuer, because God lets a man know when the right woman has come along, and that man will do everything in his power to make you love him until you do love him. sounds crazy and intense, but so is love.
hosea 11:8 says,
“How can I give you up, Ephraim? How can I hand you over, Israel? How can I treat you like Admah? How can I make you like Zeboiim? My heart is changed within me; all my compassion is aroused.”
so i realize that some of those names are a little archaic, so how about we replace them with names of women we know, including ourselves? God is not only our heavenly father, but he is also our pursuer — this is a thought that had not occurred to me until last night. God pursues us with such great love and compassion every single day, but are we receptive to it? are we receptive to the beautiful music God gives us everyday, the flowers he gives us, all the gifts that are bestowed upon us on His behalf?! everyday God does something for us to show us that He is in love with us. how could He give us up? how could He change us? how could He hand us over?! we are that precious to our Creator..why would we want to try to find another human to love us when we already have the greatest love of all — an unconditional, unfailing love that stands the test of time.
oh, how great His love for us.
i know not constantly thinking about being in a relationship or daydreaming about your dream guy is easier said than done, but why not give it a shot? why not let your eyes be opened by the love of Christ so you can witness true beauty in everyone you meet?
sometimes if i sit down and think about my life and try to plan out when i’ll get married or when i’ll meet “the one” i get bummed out because i realize how little influence i have on these events — but then after that split second of being bummed, i find peace and realize that it’s probably better to let God be in charge of something like that. being content during your season of singleness is certainly something to be embraced! there are so many things that we as Christian women can do while single that we couldn’t do in a relationship, so let’s start taking advantage of the great community of sisters in Christ that we have and start really living a life of love.